Happily ever after

It seems that every Disney movie ends the same way: the handsome prince and gorgeous princess get married, they ride off in a carriage and live happily ever after…

End scene.

I’ll lend you a secret - there is a reason there aren’t many sequels to these.

Picture these next Disney hits:

o   Cinderella and the palace bills

o   Snow white and the seven things she got from Target when she went in just for milk

o   Frozen – thanks to a husband who likes every fan on full speed ahead

I’m guessing these blockbusters would skyrocket right to the top!

Real life isn’t glamorous. Sometimes life is busy, you are stressed out, the house seems to dirty itself and work is knocking you down just to see how many times you will get back up. No matter how good life is, hard weeks happen.

It was a Sunday night like any other, after a hectic weekend – the stress of the week finally caught up to me. I cried. Not just one glistening tear on my check, not a soft cry into the pillow… a full on Kim Kardashian, snotty nose, roll of toilet paper gone (along with my husband’s mind and my sanity), mascara wearing cry. It was attractive.

Did I have a good reason for it? Nope. Can I justify the breakdown? Sure I can. Life happened. I missed my husband who spent 3 days in a golf tournament, Monday was coming and I just wasn’t ready. I needed one more day with him. One more hour. I just needed some time and damn if Mother Nature was not listening to me.

These moments don’t come often, but when they do it takes a lot of talking me off of the ledge to get my breathing at a normal rate and my nose to stop making that stopped up gurgling noise we all love so much. I am woman, HEAR ME ROAR! (or gurgle)

As any typical man would, B shot me the look like “what the hell is wrong with you and where did this come from?!” – Followed immediately with a look of, “Oh, shit. Let me comfort you before you go postal”. It didn’t last long, but it happened.

When we were engaged we received tons of cards from family and friends with words of wisdom, well wishes and words of advice – I don’t remember reading “Brian, your wife will lose her mind for no good reason, stick with it… it gets better… tell her you love her, she’s pretty and give her chocolate”. Which family member can I blame for letting that slip through the crack?

There should be some kind of award ceremony held for all husbands out there, simply to recognize their patience and understanding during said mental breakdown.

In moments like these, when everything seems hectic and the world is against me – it’s nice to know I have someone to stand beside me and take on life blow for blow. That’s the happily ever after kids, the fairytale ending if you will. Having someone who is your best friend – who just gets you when you’re having an off night, who lets you cry it out when you need to just for crying sake. It’s not rainbows and unicorns all the time – the next morning, when my heads a little clearer - thats when I recognize that no matter what life throws at me, I have my prince there – shield in hand, ready to take it all on with me.

Happily ever after THAT, Cinderella.

Toddlers and date nights

These next few months are big ones in the Beavan household. Brian and I will have a new Nephew sometime very soon. My sister is over 36 weeks and with Meredith having made her debut at 38 it could be any day now! We are very excited! Alongside that we have 4 special girls turning two. It feels like just yesterday all these little ladies were making Brian nervous just to hold them, now he can hang with the best of em’. They stepped in and stole the show and we cannot wait to celebrate their second and many more with them.

Ava is sassy, she walks with an essence of “yeah, I’m adorable… so give me some cookies” and blushes anytime Brian looks her way. It’s adorable.

Meredith is wild – wild hair, wild attitude, and a total dare devil. Heartbreaker in training. Want her to calm down? Have some tic tacs in your pocket. She’s a feign.

Brynn and Emily are sometimes shy but once out of their shell they have the corkiest little personalities. Both so different. Brynn’s a little cuddler and Emily is a giggle monster.

We are so lucky to have tons of amazing kids in our lives.

Since my last post we attended a moon bounce party for Preston (our ring bearer) where I had more fun than any kid could have, and a pool party for Dave Facini’s birthday. (Where Brian’s phone found out the hard way it wasn’t a good swimmer) Summer birthdays are the best. When I announced to my husband I wanted a moon bounce for my birthday I was quickly brought back to earth and reminded that I was born in December and that just wasn’t gonna happen. Damn you, Mom.

Brian and I also kicked off a new tradition of established Thursday date nights. We’ve always attempted to set aside at least a day for quality us time but choosing a day makes it feel more official and set in stone. We started this off with “All you can eat/drink wings and beer” at a Blue Crabs game. Anyone who knows Brian at all, or who have been to a Hooters, Buffalo Wild Wings or the Leonardtown Pub at the same time as him know… this man made good on the “All you can eat” portion and I certainly did my best to get our money’s worth of all you can drink. This past Thursday we spent an evening golfing and then hit previously mentioned Pub for dinner. I am already scouting new ideas for upcoming Thursdays!

Speaking of golf. Brian and I played together for the 3^rd year in a row at the Scott Verbic Memorial Tourney. This year our team shot 15 under par and still only came in 3^rd. Next year, we’re taking the crown!

Anchor made a huge step in the world: sleeping out of her crate at night! No accidents, nothing chewed up and only a few awkward sleeping positions. I’ll take it!

 

This weekend is going to be one for the books. Two awesome people are coming home to visit and we are headed out Friday to enjoy a few drinks and music and then Saturday we are attending our first post-marriage wedding.  

I am one of those lucky people who not only enjoys her job but has made a few good friends through it. My favorite yet = Heather Harper. You may remember her from this post This Saturday she will be married and I couldn’t be happier for her. She’s been a huge inspiration to me and I cannot wait to dance the night away with her after she becomes Mrs. Jones! WHO?? Mrs. JONEEEEEESSSSS! J Pictures will follow.